Are You Sure? People are unsure of their place, and who-and-what they are. Confidence is an assumption not a tangible entity like a leg. Is self-confidence a product of your bank-account, a decade or two of success? Real as a Right-Sided-Stroke After fifteen-years as Division Vice-President overseeing 1,200 executives, graduating from MIT with a Ph.D, and earned wealth with all its support systems. He smiled comically as he shared his deepest secret with a stranger Every day I come to work thats fifteen-years I wait to hear they figured-it-out that Im faking it, and know-nothing. No, it didnt happen today but probably tomorrow maybe not. Okay, Ill stick it out for anotherday I still got em fooled aint that the limit? How can you relax and enjoy your success when you fear your competency? Where does confidence come from? Is it genetic and hardwired, or can you buy it at Walmart? Self-Confidence is not a given, it requires daily reinforcement at both your conscious and non-conscious mind - or its shoots-its-wad and silently departs like Hurricane Rita. Youve Heard of ANTs Automatic-Negative-Thoughts Psychologists estimate we have two-hundred different ANTs living in our mind to advise us about our talents, character, and personal-worth. Ninety-eight percent of the time they automatically assure us we stink, are a no-talent, and are fooling-the-public. Read the lips of the Australian tennis-pro playing for the title who smashed the ball into the net You stupid, no-good S.O.B. You *&$!!, he says to himself. His blood boils over, and he can hardly breathe, but it goes on for up to sixty-seconds. Guess happens to him on the next serve - in that state-of-mind? Right he goofs again, and takes that as evidence the ANTs are right! Okay whats your first-reaction to falling-flat on your fact? You need a new strategy that empowers you not insults you when you stumble. The ANTs Got Him The first step is having Two-Minute-Strategies to make self-esteem and personal-power automatic - and run on auto-pilot. Know these Two-Minutes-Strategies and punch illegitimate self-doubt in the snout. Breathe-Stretch-Shake Let-it-Go! First, the name MASE, a superstar Rapper, released a lyric in 2005 on his Welcome-Back album called Breathe-Stretch-Shake and Let-it-go. Goal for us: annihilate the nasties from your mind, and alert the Big-Five senses to pay-attention and concentrate on the work-at-hand. One-more-once when you want to clear your head, focus on being productive wake-up! your mind-and-body (not before going to sleep) use Breathe-Stretch-Shake Let-it-Go! Personally - it should be a requirement every 90-minutes because we wind-down every one-and-a-half hours. Thats a scientific-fact, not an urban-myth. This exercise takes no more than ninety (90) seconds! 1. Stand up yes, that requires a decision.
2. Close your eyes do it when you are in private.
3. Visualize your heart, and place your right-hand in the center of your chest.
4. Take a diaphragmatic breath (deeply inhale), and count to seven-beats - one-one-thousand, two-one-thousand, three-oneetc.
5. Switch hands and place your left-hand a hand-span above your navel (belly-button, umbilicus), and visualize your belly-button.
6. Hold that inhalation to a count of ten-beats (seconds) while simultaneously visualizing your belly-button.
7. Exhale s-l-o-w-l-y to a count of seven-beats, and open your eyes.
8. Now stretch out your arms and legs and really s-t-r-e-t-c-h.
9. Shake-your-body vigorously starting from your head and working down to your feet.
10. Last and 50% of your grade Slap-your-hand-down on a flat-surface, and shout-out - if it is appropriate, or self-talk enthusiastically Let-it-Go! But Whats the meaning of All This? We intellectuals left-brain dominant successful folk spend 95% of consciousness analyzing the why? of stuff. Just this once just-do-it! - and focus on the how of things. The results are instantaneous your brain gets a 12% jolt of oxygen and glucose, and disposes of excess carbon dioxide. Youre awake and kicking and ready to concentrate on whatever you choose. Conduct your own experiment Breathe-Stretch-Shake Let-it-Go! - and discover your power of focus-and-attention particularly after you notice yourself winding-down to a snail. But when do I do this exerciseand how do I? Who is the Boss of You? Use your volition c-h-o-o-s-e, make decisions. Resign from being a grunt, and be the commander-in-chief. Its your life or go ask your Mama if this is worth learning. Confidence means with-trust, and leads to self-assurance through belief, when you take command of your mind-and-body. See ya, copyright 2005
H. Bernard Wechsler
www.speedlearning.org
hbw@speedlearning.org
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