I have a lot of experience working with people from all walks of life, people like you and me who want to manifest the life of their dreams. Many who applied the Secrets Teachings are already well on their way to having it all. Most of them actually had to stop and realize that just talking about it, their financial independence dream for instance, wasnt going to make it happen. Uttering some fancy affirmations does not do it either because for the most part affirmations, which are the hollow sentences you tell yourself time and again, simply bounce back on the walls of your beliefs so it is like throwing flower seeds on bare rocks, we all know what the results will be, dont we?

I once coached a wonderful woman who had big trouble keeping her hard earned money until the end of the month. She was deeply in debt and started getting problems at work because of her lack of concentration and focus due to her financial situation. When she was about to lose her job, a friend of hers who had made great changes in her life after going through a powerful coaching program literally brought her to me and even paid her first session so she could finally get some help.

I looked at her and said that I will not coach her because she didnt come on her own accord. She needed to realize it for herself, the fact that she was in a delicate position and that she needed to do something about it. The woman we shall name Jane (to protect her privacy) agreed to give it a chance, to give herself a chance and so we began our project together, to find out what was creating her financial and otherwise misery in life.

Jane could not tell me where she really spent her money, she just knew that 10 days before the month is over she needed to borrow some money to survive'? Now, that was an interesting challenge so I suggested to accompany her for 3 days while she went about and around

On the first day everything seemed to be fine. She took care of her chores and did well. The next day was a Saturday and the moment I saw her for our appointment I knew something was not right. I barely recognized her. She was in a right state!

Her whole body was telling a long tale, she was restless, depressed and quite in a hurry. She said she needed a coffee so we drove to the next coffee place but she refused to buy any coffee there!

Pretty confusing isnt it?

So we kept driving around (her friend did because Jane wasnt able to do anything then) until we saw a Starbucks shop and the moment she saw it she lit up talk about a transformation!

Jane was literally beaming! We went in and she ordered no less than 5 big Frapuccinos

Now things started to make sense to me! She had a strong but less than useful program running totally on autopilot and she wasnt even aware of it 100%.

A little later she got sick because of the quantity of the Frapuccinos she had

Now was the time to do something about it because she wanted to go there again and have more of the Frapuccinos. When I asked her how many she had consumed already she said just one!

To make a long story short we got down to this Frapuccino business mystery in the end. It turned out, she didnt believe to be a lovable person but one day she met a guy who made her feel special and that she deserved to be loved. They were in a Starbucks on a beautiful Saturday when he asked her to marry him, which shocked her and delighted her at the same time. She agreed and couldnt believe her luck that was until the guy cleaned out her savings account before disappearing forever, without a single word.

They also used to go for a little gambling game and have fun together so she took on that habit as well. The shock was terrible for her because in her mind, it confirmed her unworthiness and because the guy played his game well she also believed the only great time in her life was with him, so unconsciously she kept trying to get back those feelings by buying the too many Frapuccinos and by wasting her money on gambling in the hope she would relive the emotions she experienced while she was spending time with him as he was most charming when he gambled.

We took care of these emotional problems and I made her realize that the feelings and emotions she experienced with him were her own creation. It was her great ability to feel those emotions in the first place that made her happy and joyous. She just associated them with him so when he betrayed her trust, she adopted the damaging belief that she was not worth anything and her money spending automatic program was created to help her cope with the shock and loss she perceived when the guy took her money and left her. Soon enough wasting her money and being miserable became a habit she did not control anymore.

However, once those issues had been successfully addressed, she could save enough money to pay her debt off. She also invested in herself by learning new money generating skills: new habits that were most beneficial to her. She learned how to stop the money leakages in her financial life and she learned to love and respect herself. A year later she became a very successful business woman and she manifested the relationship of her dreams as well.

Now, you might think. Well, that was a tragic story but I dont have that kind of emotional issues. My question is, do you not, really? As far as emotions are concerned every single human being does things so they can feel certain emotions. Be it happiness, a sense of worth, joy, satisfaction, feel superior riding a Mercedes or a Rolls Royce, feel beautiful It all boils down to whether you are aware of WHY you want the things you want, WHY you do the things you do or not. Some feelings and emotions can help you succeed beyond your wildest dreams, so the key to success is: you need to be in charge of your emotional states so you use them to create what you truly want instead of being driven by them to places you would rather not go to.